Brandon’s Super Blog

We have our secrets and our needs to confess. We may remember how, in childhood, adults were able to look right through us, and into us, and what an accomplishment what was when we, in fear and trembling, could tell our first lie…

R.D. Laing gave this quote in The Divided Self.  When we think back we may be able to remember our first lie or at least a lie that stands out in our minds.  Often times people lie so much that they themselves begin to believe its true.  I myself can remember times i have lied to my parents and in convincing them that it was the truth i convinced my self the same.  Although lying isn’t always harmful or dangerous it often times causes problems in relationships and or problems with the law.  Breakups and divorce from my personal experience see to happen most often due to a lie or untruest in one another. 

Lies get us out of trouble usually.  We often do something we don’t want some one else to find out about so we lie about where we were or who we were with.  Fear leads us to lie.  I remember lying to my mother about sleeping over a friends house when I was in middle school but i really went to my girl friends.  This was a big mistake not only because she found out but I also wasn’t ready for spending the night with a girl!

Is keeping a secret lying.  I always wasn’t sure about this.  Am i lying to my parents if I have a little secret i don’t want them to know about?  I’m not sure what my opinion is on secrets but i don’t think most of them are harmful.

We need to be careful about who we lie to and how often we do it.  It’s not worth hurting the people around us.